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Here's how you can develop assertiveness skills without appearing aggressive or confrontational.

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Assertiveness is a key component of effective conflict resolution, allowing you to express your thoughts and needs clearly without infringing on the rights of others. It's a fine balance between passivity and aggression, but with the right approach, you can master this crucial skill. Developing assertiveness without crossing into aggression requires self-awareness, empathy, and clear communication. By honing these skills, you can navigate conflicts with confidence and poise, ensuring that your voice is heard while maintaining respectful and constructive interactions.

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1 Know Yourself

Understanding your own communication style is the first step toward assertiveness without aggression. Reflect on how you handle disagreements; do you shy away or push too hard? Recognizing your natural tendencies allows you to adjust your approach. Practice expressing your opinions in a respectful yet firm manner. This self-awareness will enable you to stand your ground on important issues while avoiding unnecessary confrontations.

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2 Use "I" Statements

"I" statements are a powerful tool in assertive communication. They allow you to express your feelings and thoughts without blaming or criticizing others, reducing the likelihood of a defensive response. For example, instead of saying "You're always late," try "I feel frustrated when meetings start late." This subtle shift in language can make a significant difference in how your message is received and can help in keeping the conversation focused on resolving issues rather than escalating them.

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3 Listen Actively

Assertiveness isn't just about speaking; it's also about listening. Active listening involves fully concentrating on what is being said rather than just passively 'hearing' the message of the speaker. It shows respect for the other person's perspective and helps you understand their needs and concerns. By listening actively, you demonstrate empathy and can respond more effectively, which is essential in finding a resolution that satisfies everyone involved.

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4 Stay Calm

Maintaining a calm demeanor is crucial when practicing assertiveness. It helps you think clearly and communicate your message without being overshadowed by emotions. If you feel yourself getting upset, take deep breaths or ask for a moment to collect your thoughts. A calm approach not only conveys confidence but also prevents the situation from escalating into an argument where aggressive behavior might take the lead.

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Marli Rusen

I created the popular MIRROR Method – a training program that empowers leaders to make respectful and informed decisions, and supports organizations in their need to build healthy, safe and productive environments.
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Two individuals in conflict often characterize the same incident differently - one sees behaviour as "aggressive" while the other says it is merely "assertive". This should be determined/resolved by leaders based on how the comment or opinion is relayed. Strongly held positions or opinions extend beyond assertiveness when they are relayed in a threatening or overbearing manner. Factors to consider include tone of voice, non-verbal conduct (what their face, fingers and arms may be doing) and overall demeanour. Are they calm and measured - yet clear and direct? Likely, this is assertive, not aggressive. Are they reasonably viewed as intimidating others with their delivery, or silencing those with whom they disagree? Likely, aggressive.

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5 Set Boundaries

Setting clear boundaries is an integral part of being assertive. It involves understanding and communicating what is acceptable to you and what isn't. When you set boundaries, you protect your rights and needs without infringing on those of others. It's important to be direct and specific about your limits and to enforce them consistently. This clarity helps prevent misunderstandings and demonstrates your respect for both yourself and others.

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6 Practice Regularly

Like any skill, assertiveness improves with practice. Start with low-risk situations where you feel more comfortable and gradually work up to more challenging scenarios. Role-playing exercises with friends or in a workshop can be particularly helpful. The more you practice assertiveness, the more natural it will become, and you'll find it easier to navigate conflict without slipping into aggression.

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7 Here’s what else to consider

This is a space to share examples, stories, or insights that don’t fit into any of the previous sections. What else would you like to add?

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Julia Darden

Trained Human Resources Candidate Looking to Make a Difference in Organizations
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When often having hard conversations with employees about their performance the delivery can get misconstrued. The first thing that I always do is think about what it is like in their shoes. The second that I consider is making sure that their concerns or questions are heard. I take the time to go over all the necessary questions or concerns that they have. I always let them know that they can come to me at any time with any concerns or questions they have. Open dialogue with employees is always a great way to have the hard conversations without making them feel like they did something wrong.

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1 Know Yourself

2 Use "I" Statements

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4 Stay Calm

5 Set Boundaries

6 Practice Regularly

7 Here’s what else to consider

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